同大家講個故事,有一對夫婦決定離婚,不歡而散,並爭奪7歲兒子嘅撫養權,最後媽媽贏咗。喺媽媽眼中,會搞到離婚完全係前夫的錯,所以佢唔俾爸爸見個仔,亦成日會喺仔仔面前數落前夫。潛移默化,仔仔慢慢開始相信父母離異,爸爸係罪魁禍首,父子關係亦變得疏離。
呢類故事,大家可能都聽過,而喺心理學入面,咁嘅現象叫做「父母異化」(parental alienation),即係一個家長透過詆毀等方式,令小朋友對另一名家長產生恐懼同敵意。呢個情況好普遍,單喺美國,已經有2,200萬家長要面對呢個處境。
除了被針對的家長,對孩子來說,呢種情況都係家庭暴力的一種,因為孩子對雙親的愛的需要和渴求被忽視,對孩子的心理健康和福祉會有長遠的負面影響。
相信在婚姻路上有衝突甚或最後分手收場,唔會係大家樂見的,但點樣處理善後,先可以將對大家,特別係下一代的傷害減到最低?可看相關短片:父母沒了愛,都不可以分開?了解。
資料來源
- Colorado State University. (2018, November 27). An understudied form of child abuse and ‘intimate terrorism’: Parental alienation: Researchers are urging psychological, legal and child custodial disciplines to recognize parental alienation as family violence. ScienceDaily.
- Heitler, S., Ph.D. (2018, February 1). Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Is It, and Who Does It? Retrieved from Psychology Today.
- Kruk, E., Ph.D. (2013, April 25). The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children. Retrieved from Psychology Today.
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